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Expectations.

Adam Draper
Dec 9, 2021
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I see a crisis of expectations around me. People expecting more from the world, from their friends, from their lives, but not from themselves. Short term thinking builds poor foundations.

I was born optimistic, and am a “Lifestyle” hard worker. I have always been harder on myself than I am on those around me and I get energy from helping people understand things (unfortunately, I understand fewer things than I think I do). I’m also super competitive. Basically, I truly believe I’m an average human in the world, but my timeline of thinking is longer than others. Which means, I try to care about enduring things rather than moments. I choose fewer things to care about, over a long period of time and I try not to get distracted with what others care about in every moment.

1% better every day can change the world and compounding interest is the most powerful force in the universe.

In the world I see people attempting to care about everything. Everyone can’t care about everything an equal amount. We shouldn’t expect that everyone is reading the same things that we are. We shouldn’t expect that people came to the same conclusions that we did. It creates the wrong expectations in others. I believe it’s important to care about fewer things, not more.

I guess this means that the crisis of expectations is actually a miss-understanding about what things are important to each individual and respecting that difference.

I wanted to write this down in case someone else was feeling the same way. I wanted people to know that it’s ok to not care about some things, as long as you know the things you do care about and commit to them.

Poor expectations leaves people angry. And as my friend says, anger is the dumbest emotion ever: “You punish yourself to hope that someone else feels it.”

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Wm Martindale
Dec 15, 2021

I could not agree more!

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Rekt Tech
Dec 9, 2021

I like the last line. Another one I heard is that anger is like drinking poison to spite your enemy. They won't care and you'll end up sick.

Someone told me this week "You can do anything you want in life, but not everything. Prioritize accordingly."

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